“Look, Lily, I have a band aid!” One of my daughter’s friends showed her his booboo with great excitement. Oh how children love to show off their battle wounds!
As adults we are not so free. We try all kinds of methods to cover up physical and unseen wounds. Why? Is it guilt or shame?
Recently I burned my forearm on the oven while making pizzas for my family. It has healed, but I still bear a scar. Not long after, a friend of mine also burned herself! She has the same scar! Now, this friend, who is from Indonesia, has darker skin. We have many other differences, but somehow we share a special bond now because of our matching scars!
How true is this for our unseen wounds? Currently I’ve been blessed to get to know the wives of orientees during Aviation Orientation. Going in, all I saw were our differences. We are each quite different and are even headed for service in totally different places. Over time, we’ve shared trials we have faced in the past as well as difficulties we are facing right now. In revealing our wounds, we find we have more in common than we realized. Our shared vulnerabilities have strengthened our friendships!
At the secondhand shop at JAARS, I spotted two matching full-length oven mitts. I was so excited! My mind went straight to my Indonesian friend, Cia. I happily grabbed up both mitts with joy, knowing we’d both now be protected and matching!
That’s what I realized about being open with friends. We can help protect each other from future wounds and/or help each other through current trials. This is true friendship! I’m so glad I trusted my friends with my scars and that they have trusted me. We share a bond now that cannot be shaken.
“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”